By WiseWoman

My idea of a perfect world is simple; everyone would be able to have as much sex as he/she needed without thinking the plethora of evils we are so conditioned to thinking! There would be “sex kiosks” available all over the place, sort of like Jack-in-the-box’s. At work, there would be “sex” breaks similar to coffee breaks. The word “monogamy” would be taken out of every dictionary, and substituted with “polyamory.”  Polyamory is to mean, “to love more then one person at one time.” Society would see sex as normal an event as all necessary daily activities such as eating, sleeping, and drinking water. There would be NO stigma about “cheating spouses,” so ownership would no longer be an issue, nor would anyone feel jealous, because, just like having dinner with a colleague, having sex with them would be just as commonplace. It would be an accepted thing that if you saw someone who turned you on, you would be free to have casual sex with them, no matter whose spouse they were. There would be much less anger, jealousy, hatred, angst, stress, high blood pressure, guilt, insecurity, and loneliness, not to mention the more serious illnesses that are caused by the chronic feeling of these emotions. 

Now, I know this is a controversial idea, and it brings up moral issues, religious issues, and I am sure, many other issues, but let’s look at a few things here and see if awareness can be achieved. Quantum physics tells us that DISease in our bodies is caused by something going wrong in our brain to make it reproduce bad cells, which causes illness, and in many cases death. Other types of homeopathic systems have scientifically proven that every emotion is connected to a corresponding organ. Metaphysics connects the mind with the body in direct correlation to how we deal with life issues, resulting in the wellness or lack thereof, of the human body.

MONOGAMY is simply not natural. Millions upon millions of Americans are stepping outside of their committed relationships to gain sexual nourishment!! This is not a surprise, but what is surprising is that if all these people have to deceive their significant others in order to get what they need, they are silently killing themselves. Deceit, anger, chronic hate and all these types of emotions, are DISease causing agents in the cellular structure of a human body.  If these millions of Americans are causing all this disease in themselves because they need sexual nourishment, this type of campaign to change society’s thinking would answer this problem, not to mention, decrease the cost of healthcare!!!

Just think that if society dictated that having sex was as natural as having three meals a day, there would be no need for moral dictatorship. No one would learn to be jealous, there would be no such thing as infidelity, no one would be angry at a spouse for cheating, no one would feel guilty about the NATURAL feelings they are having, no one would have to be deceitful, and marriages could last forever because the need for sexual nourishment is not reliant upon both parties fulfilling the others total sexual appetites for life! So without all these emotions that cause such terrible illness, people would not only be healthier and happier, but they would be able to keep their marriages together and raise their kids in the family unit again. This would, in turn, bring back many of the lovely family traditions that have fallen by the wayside with the divorce rate as it is now. There are so many men who think they are dogs because they finally end up deciding to go outside their committed relationship because they’re starving for physical fulfillment, and women who think they are sluts if they need and seek more than the man at home has to offer her. Monogamy is a very unnatural practice and needs to be abolished as the moral norm.

This new idea would, in my opinion be very advantageous to society. Men wouldn’t have such a huge ego problem because the competition wouldn’t be so fierce. Women wouldn’t have to feel like they are being sluts because they desire more then one man all their married life, and couples can enjoy many varied combinations of intimate bonding without the stigma of ownership and jealousy issues. There would have to be vaccines against all STD’s, not unlike the polio vaccine, and preventions for pregnancy would have to be more easily achieved. And there would be other issues to iron out, but all in all, I seriously see calmer, happier, masses of people, because they are all sexually nourished!!!

The closest modern day equivalent to this idea is SWINGING. Committed couples that are in the swinging lifestyle have managed to conquer those emotions that stand between sexual intimacy and TRUE intimacy; which can only be experienced by two people who have relinquished the possessive dynamic in their relationship. True intimacy encompasses sex, love, caring, understanding, wholeness, selflessness, personal power, and the attitude that says, “ I am here because I choose to be here. I give what I give not for what I will get in return, but for the sheer joy of giving something to my partner that only I have to give.” This in it’s self, gives sacredness to the union of two people, not sex. Swingers share their bodies with many others, nourishing their sex drives, usually in the presence and certainly with consent of their “chosen” partners.  The women do not hold “sex” over their partners’ heads as reward for something or “no sex” as punishment. The man has learned to honor his partner knowing that she has chosen him as her heart mate. The woman has no need for insecurity or jealousy because she is given the freedom to express her womanliness with whomever she desires, not demanding continual validations of her worth from just one man. The couples I know who “swing” on a regular basis, have said that they wish they had done it years ago because they had never been emotionally closer to each other then they were since swinging became their chosen lifestyle. 

Sex without emotional attachment is nourishment for the body. Making love with a committed partner is nourishment for the soul. A balance of both, like a well- planned meal, is what most doctors would agree to be VERY healthy for the body, mind and spirit!!!

If everyone had as much sex as needed, I believe this would be the answer to world peace

©2002 Tami Fox. All rights reserved.

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