Yes,
Master
Ever slap your
lover during sex? Ever tweak a nipple hard enough to
bring a moan? Ever dig your fingernails into his
back? If yes, then you're already into S & M,
sadomasochism and if you've ever blindfolded someone or been
called a slut or a whore during sex, that's a good start into
the B & D, bondage and discipline. So what's the
attraction and why has it become so popular? Many
will tell you that it's power sharing or control, but whatever
the name it allows us to push our boundaries to achieve ever
greater sexual gratification. This is sophisticated sex
and it's practiced by more university educated people than any
other group. Why? I'd never expose myself in front of
anyone, but if I gave control over everything I said or did to
someone else, well, it's not really ME that's exposing me,
it's my master or mistress exposing his or her property which
happens to be me. I might never consider having sex with
more than one person because of upbringing or religious
morality issues, but if I gave control to my partner, then I
don't have to make judgments whether it's "a sin" or
not. For
most of us BDSM is a great way to become closer and have more
fun during sexual activity. Ladies have scarves and men
have belts for tying us up, there are clothespins for nipple
play, or a wooden spoon for spanking and we're ready for a
great time. This is consensual fun and when it hurts too
much or the action is unacceptable you and your partner should
have a code word that means stop. Choose a word that
doesn't normally mean stop so that if you're in the heat of
the moment and scream stop when you really want to say that
this is so terrific you don't think you deserve more, you
won't spoil the moment. You can choose a color, or a
fragrance or anything at all, but it must bring an immediate
stop to the activity. Most
of us have both dominant and submissive parts to our
personality. Try being a slave for a while to see what
someone can "force" you to do that really turns you
on. Does the thought of being stripped and forced to
kneel naked or spanked on your bare bottom for the slightest
infraction make your genitals twinge? What about being
told to wear something very revealing in public or being told
to flash your tits or your dick? Consider
switching and you crack the whip for a while and make your
partner's fanny red a time or two. Can you imagine making your
lover strip before you, kneel in front of you and bend forward
while you insert a butt plug and insist that it remain there
until you say it can come out? While
there are many who consider BDSM a 24-7 lifestyle choice and
live as master and slaves in permanent relationships, most of
us participate as a way of exploring our sexuality and grow as
a couple. Keep
it safe and stay sexy!
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