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How to find a Casual Sex Partner
If you believe everything you
read, you know that the internet is full of well hung men,
silicone enhanced, big breasted, tight assed women; all ripe
and ready to leap out of your computer, any time you click
your mouse. The menu reads like paradise; bisexual nymphs,
muscular hung studs, horny wives who want more cock, gay,
lesbian, transsexual, horny swingers who can't wait for you to
join in with their hot, sweaty, sexy action.
Threesomes, foursomes,
moresomes, no problem! Slim sexy singles, beautifully
airbrushed, not a body imperfection, piercing, cellulite or
tattoo in sight. Shy? no way. Inhibitions? What inhibitions?
All these graphical images, posts, and invitations can give a
guy such a hard-on, it tears the stitching in his trousers and
takes a week to go down. A girl thinks she has Victoria Falls
between her legs, with nipples tearing her blouse apart to
break free. Unfortunately for most, this is a long
way from reality.
The old adage that if something
seems too good to be true, can be applied to the seeming
plethora of 'available' sex online. I said 'available' sex.
I'm not saying that it is all an illusion, far from it. Far
too often, what reads well in an ad turns out to be a
clever marketing ploy. There are tricks, traps and pitfalls,
even though SexyAds reads every ad before it's viewable,
there's no way they can know what goes on in your private
email. So, for the unwary, being fooled can come easily nobody
wants to get hurt..
With a reality check,
some common sense and doing some homework, ANYBODY can find
exactly what they want in the casual sex arena. Part of
finding what you want is mentioned
in the previous article How to write an Effective Personal Ad.
What I mentioned in there in (2) selling yourself to the right
audience, and (3)getting your wording right. If you are here
at SexyAds, reading this, then you've found the right
audience. You can supplement a good ad here, with a short post
in a news or discussion group.
These two items are VITAL in
looking for Casual Sex. You have to be in the right place, you
have to say the right thing or you are completely wasting your
time. You are inviting someone to be intimate with you, not
for tea and cucumber sandwiches or a nice drink and a chat
(unless that is a normal part of your own game plan).
For example, this is what NOT
to say in an ad looking for a casual sex partner:
"Some
women will read this and not respond because I'm only
interested in sex, good clean uninhibited sex. If you
are interested in hard thumping sex, cock sucking and butt
slamming, I'm the best fuck you'll ever have but you'll never
know it because you won't respond."
Now this gentleman really
wanted to get responses but invited women not to respond, and
naturally they don't. The ad is aggressive and
confrontational. Also, is there anything in the ad that
remotely speaks to what's in it for a woman? There are
far fewer women than you'd expect who want to meet strangers
for a quick fuck. So as you might expect, he received heaps of
mail from prostitutes and women who wanted expensive gifts and
he was really upset.
Often, if the ad's not
aggressive or macho, it's solely focused on cock size or
stamina. Appendage size and/or stamina is not enough to sell a
man to a woman. It is relevant in a same sex ad (watch for a
new article entititled How to write a Seeking Same Sex ad). It
may be sufficient if you are responding to a couples ad, and
she has specifically stated she wants a man with a big cock
who can go all night. Her husband or partner, no doubt has
neither of these things at home.
So, what DO you write in an ad
for casual sex? Women find intelligence very attractive, so
whatever you write, read it before hitting the submit
button!! A member who is very successful in getting many
different women into bed with him gives this advice:
"I write
friendly ads where I come across as a real person. I
have a photo with a big smile and my first emails are
conversational and then I move on to 'interests' which always
include a couple of sexual innuendos. I've never had any luck
at all with a blatant sexual ad other than to get
prostitutes. Women aren't stupid and they look at sex
differently that we men do. They want to feel important and
loved and they want the opportunity to nurture me. How can I
refuse? Plus, I get great sex!"
Some Tips for writing that
Casual Sex ad on SexyAds:
Wording:
The body of a casual sex ad has
to be succinct and to the point. Don't forget, you are
painting a picture of yourself, to someone who has never seen
you. Offer MINIMAL information for MAXIMUM impact. Keep it to
100 words or less. When writing your ad 'athletic' is a word
that conjures up all of the above stamina type activities. If
you play a lot of sports mention one or two, not a long list.
Try to give the reader an idea of the sort of personality you
have. 'Fun guy' and looking for 'fun times' doesn't cut it.
She wants sex and all that it means to a woman, not an
amusement park. If you are well hung, and want to say so -
please don't give dimensions. Women find that very tacky
before they even know your name.
If she wants to know, she WILL
ask you! If you want to say that you do have a fantastic cock,
then 'well endowed' 'well proportioned' and 'ample' are good
terms to use. Make it clear when you are available, and how
you can be contacted. Give two alternative methods of
contact.
Photographs:
LESS IS MORE. Put up a photo
with some sexy lingerie (if you are a woman, or a couple) or a
nice bikini if you are a woman, or of you in a g-string or a
sexy pair of speedos (if you are a guy) Show your chest, arms,
torso. Try to avoid headless shots or bad quality photographs.
You may be trying to be discreet, but it looks a mess.
Headless shots, or pixelated shots are best left for
completely naked photos. If you can get some photos with you
in clingy or tight clothing, that shows all your shape,
without being naked, it is far more enticing and exciting that
a pic with everything hanging out. The anticipation, the chase
and the seduction is very important in a new casual encounter.
Let the jackpot be a surprise.
Happy Hunting!
DocHunny
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