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Dear readers,
Please note that, since
we have been receiving a flood of mail here at Dear
Maureen, we are unable to answer each and every inquiry.
What we have tried to do is to find common themes in the
emails we have received and provide advice along those
lines. So, if you do not find your specific question
here, please read on as you may well find an answer to
the issue you have raised with us.
Kind regards,
Maureen
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Dear Maureen,
I have met this gentleman
through personal ads. When we started to exchange
emails, we both wanted just a casual meet, with no high
expectation. So we both agreed to meet in person and he
was such a sweet and kind gentleman. We've met each
other twice so far. But I think I am starting to want
more than just a casual relationship with him. But I am
afraid of how he will react if I tell him. Because of
his past, he doesn't want to get into a serious
relationship. What should I do?
Sel
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Dear Sel,
You could continue on the
path you're on, saying nothing about your true feelings
in the hope that his feelings for you grow stronger and
that his attitudes to a 'serious' relationship change.
The trouble is they may not, particularly if he is
unaware of how you really feel about him. These sort of
situations can become incredibly frustrating and even
hurtful. So I would suggest that you get your feelings
for him out in the open. Obviously, what you wanted out
of the relationship has changed and you might be
cheating yourself out of something just as good with
someone else if you continue along without the
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Dear Maureen,
My girlfriend is on the pill and
ever since she started, her sexual desires have
lessened. Is this a side effect of the pill? We have
talk about her lack of desire and she blames the pill.
I'm a patient man but also have my desires. What should
I do?
Sexless in Texas
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Hi Sexless in Texas,
I'm no
doctor and don't claim to have any knowledge, but if the
pill is affecting her sex drive, it's time to drive to
the doctor and find out why. Surely there is another
form of contraception that will do the trick and save
your relationship. Nobody wants to be sexless!
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Dear Maureen,
I am a 55 year old woman
who has had several surgeries over the past few years. I
had been on medications that put weight on me. Now, I am
trying to lose the weight but in the meantime... what do
I say in my ad? Seriously, I am not a BBW or Large &
Lovely. I am short and fat, :). I make a nice
appearance, I am very attractive, sexual, fun to be with
etc etc. But men do not respond to my ad. How do I let a
man know I am here and worth the time?
Lvlyldygddss
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Dear Lvlyldygddss,
Your weight has nothing to do with
not getting responses. Men like women of ALL shapes and
sizes, so don't despair! Write a brand new ad and don't
say anything about trying to lose weight or changing
yourself in any way. Write about YOU. What you enjoy
doing, what things in life that make you happiest, what
sort of person you are hoping to find through your ad.
Your size doesn't dictate what sort of person you are,
but your ad can. Then make sure you're smiling and have
someone take a photo of you. A smiling woman on SexyAds
says, "I'm happy when I feel sexy."
Then, if you don't get responses,
you write back to me and I'll give you some more
specific help. Good luck!
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 Hi,
I'm
Maureen! My partner
John
and I met via a personal ad on the net ten years ago
(September 13th but who's counting?) and together we created SexyAds.
We know from intimate experience how great personal ads can
work for many people.
If you've got
questions that you think will benefit others, please let me know and I'll do my best to help
out. Write
your questions to advice@sagazette.com
Please bear in
mind that I'm no expert!
I'm happy to give you my opinion. But, if you need expert
advice, please, please see a professional.
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