The key in finding the right clothing to
wear on the first date, is asking yourself what you want to
achieve. You want to be seduced! You want sex, but not on the
first date. You want to arouse interest for romance and sex in
the future. Whatever pans out, you want to look fresh and
attractive.
The choice of clothing and colours
relates to what you have in your wardrobe, where you are
going, the weather, the time of year and the image you want to
project. Above all, you need to be comfortable.
Be aware of the power of the first
impression as this influences others far more than words can.
For that first rendezvous, choose colours that look good,
nothing neutral, colours that people compliment you on every
time you wear them. Research
shows
men are attracted to women wearing peachy apricot colours or
mid tone blues. Many women are attracted to shades of blue and
burgundy, so either of these are good choices for mens shirts.
There are no ideal colours. Be yourself and let it show. Use
common sense. If you wear all black, you will have to work
hard at the relationship to gain any closenesss. Medium
colours say you are excited about being alive, you aren't dull
or too shy.
Men:
What you wear depends mainly on your
destination. A tip is to dress at the same level others would
be, or one level higher. Women are impressed by men who
understand colour choices. A woman won't tell you if you make
a faux pas. They store that info and hope you are not so
poorly co-ordinated in other areas of your life. If you are
clueless about colour combinations, browse mens shops and
catalogues for tips.
A man in a blue shirt, with a suit is
always popular. Don't wear a t-shirt unless you are going
fishing. A collared knit or polo shirt works better.
Grooming makes all the difference to a
first impression. The fit of a mans clothes is also very
important to a woman. Women always check out the shape of a
mans butt to see how his trousers fit. Women are impressed
with smooth fitting clothes. Smooth is not skin tight. Even
though you have pockets, refrain from filling them up. Pants
pulled out of shape by overstuffed pockets is unattractive. If
you are casually dressed, its easy to choose shirt colour. If
you have to wear a suit, add some interest to the tie. Women
like patterned ties, so choose a contemporary tie with colours
which compliment the jacket. Looking up to date shows you are
a modern man. If neutrals (grey, tan, white, black, brown) are
your style, jazz them up with accessories or tie or shirt.
Don't wear all blue; it says you are too conservative and want
a quiet life.
Women:
Less is more, particularly in terms of
jewellery, perfume and make-up. Men don't like jewellery
junkies. The same goes for dressing the same or a level above.
Avoid a business-look, unless you meet your date straight from
work, or during your lunch break. Colour can work for or
against you. Black, dark grey or dark brown are aloof colours
that give you control, but don't tell him anything about you.
Many women wear all black as a cover up. Unless you are
wearing black in the evening, with some skin showing and some
elegant jewellery, it can be sophisticated and stylish, but
during the day, its a big no-no. No red nail polish unless sex
is high on the agenda. What you wear more than what he wears
will set the tone of the evening. If you love slacks, wear
them. The more skin you show - thighs, legs, feet, arms,
shoulders, the more sexually enticing you appear.
Colours to avoid: Women dressing
completely in red has overt sexual connotations. Maroon is
more sophisticated than bright red, which is overwhelming. All
pink is too romantic for a first meeting. Black, navy, dark
brown or dark grey can be daunting, and act as a barrier.
Medium to light colours are friendly and more attractive.
Be sure you think through your clothing
and grooming choices.
They are powerful aspects of non verbal
behaviour, so make a POSITIVE first impression.
Happy Shopping!
DocHunny
