Do you think Kinky Thoughts?

Do you wonder if your sexual fantasies are weird? Strange? Kinky? Well you are not alone! Many couples and singles today are talking about and acting out their fantasies and finding what their likes and dislikes are. More than ever we are seeing an emergence of swingers, fetishists, and those into things that are not quite the norm to others.

For those that are wondering just what is considered kinky, here are some of the kinky and not so kinky things that couples are doing these days! Now to you, kinky thoughts might just include food! Let me assure you that this is not considered out of the 'ordinary'. Many couples these days are buying their fruit and vegetables for more than nutritional purposes! Strawberries and cream, bananas, carrots, cucumbers, honey are just to name a few! Nothing is considered taboo when it comes to fruit and vegetables..except maybe the eggplant, or the apples. All these things are edible, so try serving them up a bit different than usual.  However, be a bit wary of some things, for example, have you ever put whipped cream on your lover's penis, only to find that it doesn't taste too good when it gets warm from the body heat? Or have you found that body chocolate just doesn't go on like they say it does? Then you are not alone! Anything in the fridge these days is a potential sex toy, to enjoy and to eat later on if you dare!

Now, some other forms of kink include BDSM. Otherwise known as bondage and discipline, sadism and masochism. D&s refers to Dominance and submission.

Some people enjoy submitting themselves to another person, placing themselves under the power of another, in a sexual context. It can be a very hot thing for someone to say to you, "I'm yours. Do what you wish with me, and use my body for your pleasure." This is D&s; one person is dominating, the other submitting, a Master/slave if you will. D&s is an erotic power game, where both people are getting off--one on the thrill of controlling, the other on the thrill of being controlled.  To some people, this is how they like their sex life to be all the time, and cannot see themselves doing anything else. To others, this is not what sex and love is all about. We all have our preferences, and they're all OK.

Then there's the sort of games described by S&M--"sadism and masochism". Whips, crops, canes, nipple clamps, all the weird and wonderful things that are designed to cause, in some degree or another, pain. It can be a powerful thing to submit to someone else who wants to hurt you; it's a fantastic gesture of trust. S&M games are an overwhelmingly intense stimulation, which when administered by a skilled person can bring people to an entirely new height of ecstasy.

All these areas, as you can see, overlap and intermingle in many ways, and this is how people find to what degree they are interested, and how far they like to take it, and what suits them best. This sort of kink is not limited to men either!

It is certainly an understatement to say that the role of women in our society has changed dramatically over the past several decades. The women's movement was a huge change for sexuality and women, and now, more women than ever are choosing to become involved in swinging, and their sexual assertiveness has become acceptable.  Swinging has allowed the men and women to participate with each other, in something of a unique relationship with other couples, men and women. Women today are telling men what they want, and they are not afraid to go after it.

There are many men and women out there who have never tried any of these things, as their morals tell them that this is not allowed, and that it is not normal to feel these needs and wants. Older women especially  have been programmed all their lives that they have to be good girls, and this sort of behaviour is not allowed, its only something  you will only find the girls on the street corners doing. But we are finding more and more that men and women are expressing their sexual wants and desires. It seems that nowadays, the couple next door with the sweet young children can be involved in the swinging lifestyle. It is not limited by age or gender, and with the help of the internet, it is becoming ok to have these desires and fantasies, and more importantly, to act them out. Sex toys are fast becoming part of the bedroom furniture, for both men and women. There are many things on the market today that are widely available and used. Vibrators, dildo's, lubricant, handcuffs, cockrings, leather, latex and lingerie, are just some of the widely used sex toys around today. Any sex shop, or online store will give you a wide variety of these toys, with all different shapes, sizes and colours, and at very reasonable prices! They are designed to enhance your sex life, and to make you feel naughty,  but they really are great fun, and give you and your partner a good chance to communicate about what you want, or would like to try, sexually. Take him or her into any sex shop, and watch for what interests and repulses. Beware, there are some very  strange looking toys out there! The last visit I made I found toys I didn't even know the purpose of, nor how they worked. (Nor do I think I want to know!)   You will both have a laugh and a bit of naughty fun looking at them, and discovering just what they are.

So you see, not much is considered too kinky! Sure, you'll find out things you may not have known and it might seem a little strange, but I promise you, many people enjoy kinky fantasies and lifestyles. Whatever your kink, you are not abnormal! Every person you see in the street has some sort of hidden sexual secret, and it's not really the thing you discuss over lunch, and this is why you will find that the internet has become a sexual release for many of us. We  can discuss all these things with others, and get the help and support they need, and not feel as if they have been rejected by the community just because we're are involved in some things that others consider to be weird and kinky. 

Next time you cuddle up with your love, ask if there's anything sexually "off the wall" that he/she would like to try, and do keep keep an open mind when the ideas start coming.  Remember, you asked!! If you feel uncomfortable with any suggestion, it's perfectly all right to say "let's keep that a verbal fantasy as I'm not comfortable joining in," or offer a compromise. It's much better than saying "ARE YOU CRAZY???"  After all, you might just like it!

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