So You've Decided To Meet In Person!

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Everyone Online Always Tells The Truth!

Spunky_bum is so nice in chat. He makes you laugh and you so enjoy the time you spend with him in PC. It has been such a long time that you have been chatting on a daily basis and THAT time has come. You want to meet him face to face, after all, that picture he sent you the first night you chatted was really something. Those biceps, so well formed. The smooth chest, so sleek and tanned. Oh and those beautiful blue eyes! How it makes you quiver just to look at his picture. Life is so good. He tells you constantly how much he loves you and wants to have you with him forever. You just know he is the one for you – the one and only. You even let your defenses down and had cybersex with him.

 The phone conversations, oh how erotic they were. And what a way with words he has. You feel like a young girl on her first date again. Life is wonderful now that you have Spunky_bum to share it with. What plans you have made of a life together.

<Sweet_Lady> Sweetheart, can we meet up for a coffee next week. It is only a 3 hour drive for me and I have told you so often that I don’t mind driving that far. I would travel further to meet you in person. I do love you so much

<Spunky_bum> Hey babe that would be so cool, but I will be out of town then. Can we make it another time?

<Sweet_Lady> But that is what you say every time I have suggested that I come up there.

<Spunky_bum> Yeah well work keeps me pretty busy you know. Hey you have my phone number, give me a call and we will talk about it after I get back.

<Sweet_Lady> Ok my love. I just so want to be with you. Your picture does such things to me.

And as Spunky_bum goes offline, Sweet_Lady returns to the chat room feeling rejected and lonely but confident that one day she will be together with her beloved. Sitting quietly and watching the chat, she thinks, “Hmmm out of town next week…. But not THIS week…. If he loves me so much he would just love a surprise visit”

The 3-hour drive seems endless but our lady is going to meet her beloved one. Never did she think she could fall in love with a nickname online. She had scoffed at others that did that, and now, here she is, traveling to meet her Spunky_bum.

Strange, the neighborhood does not look like what he described. Best check the street map. Yes, it’s the right street, but it just isn’t like he described. Ah, there is No 4590. That pickup truck doesn’t look right. Thought he said he drove a convertible. Best go in and ask for directions.

Knock Knock

A well-endowed lady with slightly graying hair and a toddler in tow opens the door.

“Yes, can I help you?’

“I was looking for 4590 Blossom Drive, is this it?”

“Yes it is. Who did you want?” (at the same time spreading the runny nose of the toddler further across his face)

“I am a friend of Hank’s, does he live here”

“Hank? Nope, no Hank here. Just me and the kids and the old man when he is sober enough to find his way home”

“Does anyone here chat on the internet”?

“Oh yeah, Joe is on that thing all the time. He gets himself all wound up with some gal in the “Bordello” chat room. Calls himself “Spunky_bum in there. It ain’t been spunky for 20 years!”

From the shadows behind her there emerges a short, overweight, balding man dressed in just a pair of dirty shorts.

“Hey Joe, I was just telling this lady about your spunky bum!”

The door closes and all our Lady can hear is the laughter from within.

Not everyone tells the truth online!

If you are a newbie to chat or online relationships, it's good to be skeptical.

As wonderful as the Internet is for meeting people and doing business etc, there are some individuals out there who you should not meet. This is not to say that all chatters are telling you lies all the time. They are not. There are genuine people online who want only to chat and make friends, and if they happen to find a romance on the way, all the better. But be very sure of whom you choose to trust online and when it comes to the point of meeting them in person, please, take a few simple precautions.

• Always let someone else know where you are going.
• Always meet your cyber buddy in a public place.
• Make sure you have spoken to them many times on the phone and back up what they have told you about themselves by asking others who also know them.

Know that the choice is yours to meet someone in person that you've met online.  It's your responsibility to do the checking to make sure you're safe.

It would be lovely if everyone online was totally honest, but the fact is they are not. However you must be careful not to let that stop you from building those wonderful friendships that can occur online with the right person.

Just be careful. Trust your instincts and when it comes time to meet that person face to face, take precautions. There are some beautiful people out there just waiting for a special friend like you. I have built a network of online friends that numbers in the 100’s, many of whom I have met in person and they have been just as nice as I found them online. I would not have denied myself the pleasure of their friendship.