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New Style of Arousing Women
By
The Sex Coach
Hey, guys, has your style for
arousing women been letting you down lately? Does your
suggestion of a romp between the sheets meet with a yawn, a
giggle, no dice? Would you like to have women chase you for a
change? Or would you just like something new to try?
Here's a way to intrigue a woman
into wanting to take you to bed. It works particularly well
for those situations where you see someone on a fairly routine
basis - at school, at work, at the gym, and the coffee house
and you're shopping for someone worth your time and energy.
The Strategy
Sexually, women expect to be rushed by the wolfpack,
especially the gorgeous ones. They expect men to have sex on
the brain most of the time. They expect to say no a lot, and
many of them are exhausted by all the unwanted attention they
get just from walking down the hallway minding their own
daydreams. One of the best ways to intrigue a woman is
something like playing hard to get; it's actually playing
hard-to-arouse. In a nutshell, pretend that sex doesn't exist.
I'm serious. Converse with her as if you're totally oblivious
to that hard-on pounding in your pants. Don't make obvious
sexual commentary, show leering, lusting glances, or
acknowledge your shivers of delight whenever she uncrosses and
re-crosses her shapely legs in front of you. At the same time,
be friendly. Smile. Get to know her as a friend and let the
rest of your personality flow forth. Be as warm as you dare
without being pushy or romantically gushy. Entertain her with
your humor. Engage her in some serious conversation. Even
flirt with her, but without selling the idea of sex with you
or asking her on a date.
Are You Dead or What? A couple of
things happen when you get to know a woman without selling
sex. First, she's not on the defensive so much. She doesn't
have to put up with one more man's barrage of unwelcome and
crude sexual come-ons. For many
women, that feels like an oasis. Secondly and paradoxically,
she may start to wonder
if you're sexually dead, particularly if she's attracted to
you. Why aren't you coming on to her? Are you gay, married,
celibate? Why aren't you giving her sexual compliments
and trying to get inside her panties like so many others?
The fun thing about this
friendship technique is that if she's at all interested in you
(your looks, your personality, your potential as a lover),
she'll start pursuing you. (This is what many men secretly
want for a woman to pursue them.) She'll go out of her way to
check you out, and usually, to send you stronger signals that
she's interested. Your job is to pay attention to the signals
you're receiving.
Depending on her personality and
sexual confidence, her signals will be subtle or
bop-you-over-the-head blunt. Most of the time, a woman
interested in a man makes herself presentable and available.
Then she lets him know in a bunch of subtle ways that she
would welcome his sexual advances. Watch for sweet smiles,
longer than normal gazes, slight touches on your arms or
shoulder. Watch for a distinct show of interest in you
including questions about your love life. A woman with a
seductive agenda of her own will start flaunting her body more
to play with your imagination.
Building Sexual Interest
So how do you build sexual interest when you're playing possum
with your sexual urges? A woman often plays defense against a
lineup of salivating men. A smart and sexy man gives her the
chance to play offense. He gives her the power to run the
show. Many women truly appreciate emotional bonding. You can
actually build sexual interest by becoming a friend she can
rely on. If she trusts you and enjoys your company, you're
halfway home. She'll treat you quite differently when she sees
you as a friend rather than some guy who just wants a pleasure
cruise between her legs and who'll dump her in the trash bin
with the empties. If she's attracted to you, she'll inevitably
steer the conversation to love and sex. When you answer her
sexual questions, keep your replies general, somewhat
mysterious. For example, if she asks what kind of women turn
you on, don't immediately gush "women like you."
This is a great opportunity to
build romantic intrigue. "I like a woman who wants to make sex
special." She'll likely want to know what you mean by that.
Keep the conversation general; don't imply that you're dying
to have sex with her. Paint a word picture of sex being
precious to you and let her conclude that you appreciate a
woman who understands your need for quality. If things go
well, she'll send signals that she wants to be that person.
You don't need to play this technique on the sly. You can be
totally genuine and tell her exactly what you're doing. "You
must be tired of being hit on all the time. I'd really enjoy
getting to know you without sex getting in the way." If she
gives you a funny look, you can add, "I just want to get to
know you first." Sound at all familiar? Women use it all the
time. Meanwhile, she may not believe that you want true
friendship, so she may test you. One common test is, "You're
unlike any man I've ever met. I really wouldn't want to spoil
the friendship we have by having sex with you." She may truly
mean it and never want sex with you; however, she can just as
easily change her mind when you've proven your integrity .Been
there, done that.
The new skill here is to be subtle
and mysterious about sex. Captivate her mind, and her body
will follow. Become her friend and confidante, earning a
special place in her life, and reap the rewards of delivering
something that other men don't give her. And the surprise
bonus: if you wind up in bed together, you'll be sharing good
times with someone you've grown to care about.
.Editor's Note: The Sex Coach
welcomes feedback from all his readers, whether you're a rookie
or a veteran. You can email him with your thoughts at:
Pillowtongue@yahoo.com
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