| Slow
the Fuck Down
By the Sex Coach
Think of me as
your friendly sex coach. I'm the guy pacing wildly on the
sidelines flailing my arms and tossing my clipboard to the
ground in disgust when my star performers don't follow
directions. I know how to play the game, so pay attention.
I've got a
sizzling tip for you - you've gotta slow the fuck down.
Literally and figuratively.
This whole gambit
about fucking her harder, fucking her faster has received way
too much glory. It's not the best you can do. If you fuck her
harder, fuck her faster on a habitual basis, you cheat
yourself out of a whole bunch of pleasure.
How come? Simple.
When you're expending all that energy to be the great thrustmaster,
your body is in a frenzied rush to get to the cum shot. As
you pound,
pound, pound into your sweetie like the proverbial
pile-driver, you pay a
tremendous price. You miss out on gobs of sensuous pleasure.
Fast thrusting
limits you to a minute or so of frenzy, capped by a ten-second
orgasm. Why not stretch the whole
enchilada out into a much longer, slower dance
of delight?
You don't see much
slow fucking in the movies because quite frankly it's
not great eye candy for the
viewer. It looks rather ho-hum, in fact. Fast and
furious sex looks wilder onscreen,
and it pushes the illusion that this is what
you must do in real life for really hot sex. Wrong, Bucko.
Learn to explore
the slow lane, the scenic route. Learn what happens when
you relax during sex as if you've
just slipped into the soothing waters of a
hot spa. It will lead to vastly
increased sensual pleasure, and as you'll find
out, it'll lead to multiple orgasms for both men and women.
Slow, Soft, and
Sensuous
Men sometimes
resist being slow, soft, and sensuous because they think
it's unmanly. What a load of crap!
A masterful lover
sends his sweetie to the brink of rapture with different
styles of arousal. One way is to relax her with soft stroking
and kissing.
As she soaks in this luxurious pleasure of his attentive
caressing, she
naturally begins yearning for the feeling of a pulsating dick
deep inside. Why? He's
taken the time to light her fire. Ironically, the more you
tease a woman along by not rushing
to shove it in as soon as you can, the more
she craves it.
Always remember
that good sex is good brain. You play with your partner's
body, but you're constantly
sending messages to her brain. When you nuzzle her
neck, you're zapping her brain. When you feast on her nipples,
you're tugging at her
brain. When your tongue wanders every so languidly down her
body, you're toying with her
brain. The more you focus on what's happening in
her brain, the better of a lover
you'll be.
All women are
different, of course. Each one likes different things.
Some like
it hard and some like it soft. Some like it sweet and some
like it nasty. You need to
find out what each woman likes. The way you delighted one
woman might fail miserably with
the next one.
The Benefits of
Heightened Sensuality
In the majority of
cases, though, women prefer a more sensuous approach
to lovemaking. They enjoy a
pleasing atmosphere, like candles flickering, fresh
sheets to smell, some nice music to listen to. Where men are
usually more zone oriented
to "the tit zone, the twat zone" women prefer
attention to their
whole body. Women love it when you flow your hands over their
entire bodies like soft
warm water dripping from a shower. Give a woman a nice gooey
full-bodied massage with a
fragrant skin lotion, and she'll think she's in heaven.
You may not think
of back rubs, foot massages, or other sensuous activities
as wildly erotic. You may think of them as pretty tame. Yet
when you
experience the benefits of slowing the fuck down, you'll never
again question the wisdom
of applying the brakes. You can look forward to:
Discovering the
joys of relaxing. Start giving your woman the luxurious
slow hand, then ask her to give
you some. Try giving each other featherlight
massages. When you chow down to
some good oral sex, lick gently. Go for sensual
pleasure rather than buzzing her clit for an orgasm.
Experiment with slowness.
More pleasure for
less pump. You feel more sensuous pleasure for less
physical labor. That becomes
important when you're tired and not really up to
being an athletic marvel in bed.
Tuning into your
body. Going slow gives you a chance to fully appreciate
the sexual beauty of your five senses. When your hips are
rocking ninety
to nothing, you miss out on many subtler pleasures of the
senses.
More penis
pleasure. With a slower thrusting speed, you can heighten
the exquisite sensations inside
your cock (and everywhere else on your body)
by becoming more aware of what
your nerves are doing. Thrust slowly, pause deep
inside, constrict the internal muscles of your cock, and feel
the bliss.
Multiple orgasms.
The route to experiencing multiple orgasms for men
is slow-motion fucking. You
simply cannot perform this feat when you're fucking
her harder, fucking her faster. It
won't happen, which is one reason why so
many men don't know about it.
Happy women
partners. You have to experience for yourself how a woman
responds to a man who knows how to
deliver a slow, sensuous fuck. It's different
than being pounded. It's more romantic and feels more intimate
and special. |
