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Change Positions – Enhance your sex-life

Your sex life can be livened up with some experimentation and a little adventure. It is acceptable and expected, that women take the initiative when it comes to trying new things to enhance your lovemaking.

As well as trying new positions, a change of venue and routine in your sex life can make a difference.

With new positions, you may often just end up in a fit of giggles when something doesn’t work. Your leg cramps up, you hit your head, or you both loose your balance.

A venue that seems right at the time, may ruin the moment as one of the legs on the kitchen table bends under the weight, or your bum feels like it is burning because you are too close to the open fire, or the tap handles in the shower dig into your back.

If you always make love just before going to sleep at night, try first thing in the morning (perhaps brush those teeth first though). Or meet in the middle of the day, like lunchtime (but make sure you shower before going back to work or people will “smell” the aftermath of love making on you).

Man on Top (“missionary position”).

Even this most commonly used position, can be varied a little. The man has nearly total control, but if the woman wraps her legs around the man’s buns, she can have some control over his thrusting. The use of a cushion or pillow can alter the angle of penetration and to allow for deeper penetration, the more flexible lady can put her feet on the man’s shoulders, or behind her head!!

Woman on Top (“heaven on a stick”)

Being on top allows a woman more control over the sensations experienced by herself and her partner, and the angle and depth of penetration. The woman can lie down on the man, like a reversed missionary position, but sitting up allows access to those sensitive nipples, and leaning back allows manual stimulation of the clitoris. Alternatively the woman can face away from her partner, which will allow him to stimulation her buttocks and anus, while she gets to work on stimulating her clitoris, while controlling the thrusting.

From behind (“doggie style”)

By kneeling on her hands and knees, with her partner kneeling behind her, a woman can give her man enjoyment from the feel of her bottom against his thighs. These positions allow the man to caress his partner's vaginal area, breasts and buttocks while enjoying deep penetration. A woman can alter the angle of her pelvis and change the sensation by dropping down to her elbows, or lying face down, or straightening her arms thus raising her body.

Sitting

These positions allow a couple to embrace, which increases the intimacy, and are more suited for a slow lovemaking session, as movement is somewhat restricted. A woman may face her partner, or if she has her back to him, he can stimulate her breasts, nipples and clitoris. Sitting positions allow for deep penetration.

Side-by-Side

For a more gentle and prolonged lovemaking session, these positions are seen as the best. In the spoon position, where the woman’s back is against the man’s chest, the woman pulls her knees up and lifts one leg, to allow for easy penetration. The spoon position also allows stimulation of the breasts and vagina area. When facing each other, the woman can place her legs around the man’s waist, this will leave the couple free to kiss and caress, and moving the thighs can vary penetration depth.

These are only the basic positions but as you can see, all positions can be varied in order to change the angle and depth of penetration. If you find you don’t have an orgasm using one way, perhaps you need to try another and find the best position of you. The main thing is to try something new it can be a lot of fun and extremely arousing, as well as opening the lines of communication and making you both more relaxed, thus making your sex life more enjoyable.