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 In-Your-Face Questions
(Get real about your personal ad)
by
Brandon Tanner
You spend hours and hours going
through personals looking for the just-right person you
hope to connect with. Most of them aren’t what you’re looking
for – far from it. Man, woman – whatever. Your contacts aren’t
making any real connections, not the kind you’re looking
for. You want romance, holding hands on a walk along the beach.
Maybe you want raw sex with no strings attached. In
either case, specifics are required. That means honesty
right up front.
Consider the direct approach. Go for
it and make yourself clear from the get-go! This is where most
personal ads fail.
I mean, get specific up front. If
you’re into fetish sex, say so, explain what fetishes you like,
be honest. If anal is your thing, make it clear. Don’t hide the
fact that you love it. Please do explain how you want it. There
are rules for anal sex and those rules must be respected.
We’re talking safety-steps that must
be understood before any actual contact is made. Make sure those
rules are clear up front.
Let’s bring Loren into the picture
now for her expert point of view.
Focusing on Loren now. She’s wearing
a black leather outfit, bare legs, red high heels and her hair
is falling over her shoulders and face. She’s exquisite,
passionate and desirable. I’m the lucky man who has Loren in his
bed.
TANNER: Tell us about honesty, I get
so upset with people who can’t tell the truth about themselves!
LOREN: “Your anger is justified.
Before you and I connected, I chased numerous “personal”
ads and most of them turned out to be filled with
half-truths. For some reason people want to hide the reality
… why, I have no idea.”
TANNER: What’s your advice?
LOREN: “Get real – tell the truth!
Are you overweight? Say so, don’t try to hide it. The guy will
eventually see you and if he doesn’t like fat you’ll be
history in a heartbeat.
TANNER: The other lies really piss
me off. The woman claims to love great sex. When you get
down to it, her idea of great sex is once a week in the
dark under the covers! That’s not great sex – it’s lousy
sex. The point being, she professed one thing and meant another.
LOREN: “I can’t argue you’re
absolutely right. Women will lie about their weight and post old
pictures on their personal ads. They will also profess to be hot
in bed when they’re really no such thing.”
TANNER: So, the point we’re trying
to make here is, be honest, be up front and for God sake – tell
the truth!
LOREN: “Exactly, but you and I both
know tomorrow a man or woman will place a personal ad on S/A or
some other personals site that will be full of lies and
half-truths.”
TANNER: Then why do we bother?
LOREN: “Maybe we can get through to
a few people who can see that honesty will make a difference.
They may be able to understand that straight-forward truths are
the way to go. A twelve-year-old photo and lying about your
sexuality is not acceptable on any level.”
TANNER: Okay, if we get that message
through, then it’s worth the effort. I hope you’re right.
LOREN: “Trust me … I am – the
message needs to be sent.”
TANNER: I have to trust you – I love
you. We’ll get into something else next time.
Take care,
Loren & Brandon Tanner
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