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“TOUCHING & TASTING”

(Be Gentle)

By Brandon Tanner

“Ouch! Go easy … please.”

Unless you’re into pain, the statement above doesn’t make foreplay much fun and using fingers roughly isn’t very arousing.

We’ll discuss this issue from the female point of view.

MY wife, Loren, broached the subject after we finished shooting our latest adult video. The gentleman performer started out a bit too soon with his fingers and went about it roughly. Loren stopped him before he caused any irritation. Some women like it rough, Loren doesn’t. I’ll let her address the matter.

LOREN: “Plunging in with two or three, bony, dry fingers doesn’t give most women any pleasure. Some men seem to think it’s a big turn on – it isn’t, not for me. I like it gentle and wet.

TANNER: I heard the guy apologize after you stopped him.

LOREN: “He didn’t realize what he was doing, he didn’t intend to hurt. He was caught up in the moment and thought he was turning me on. When I stopped him he used lubrication and went easy, then I got into it. Guys, you don’t realize how sensitive the vaginal area is. An irritated clit kills the pleasure right now!”

TANNER: When we discussed this issue you mentioned oral and anal probing.

LOREN: “The same rules apply. I love a little rimming, finger-action and clit-licking, but it must be gentle and easy. That’s arousing when I’m hot and wet. My favorite sensations are what I call the fours.

TANNER: And they are?

LOREN: (She laughs and crosses her long legs) “Nibble inside my thighs, probe anally, lick my clit and then rim me and do it all again – several times. Love it, after that, I’m ready for hot penetration.”

TANNER: That’s another issue you brought up.

LOREN: “Yeah, again, the same rules apply. Think about it, a woman who isn’t up to speed wet and ready, doesn’t want a man pushing it in before the fire. Men are hard and dripping before most women are even moist, unless there’s been a lot of good foreplay and that’s something you guys should be more into.”

TANNER: I try to be, but you have me up and ready in an instant!

LOREN: “You’re sweet, thank you. All I’m saying is be patient. Think with both heads, not just one.”

TANNER: There’s a lesson there guys. Loren, you love anal. I guess the rules apply there as well.

LOREN: “Absolutely. For me, anal is fantastic if my partner knows how to do it right. Rimming first, a lot of foreplay and plenty of lube. I can’t take a real big one, but average is great. Once I’m into the passion, anal entrance makes me cum several times. I love it long and slow and then hard and fast as I reach orgasm.”

TANNER: Tell us about one anal experience that was excellent, but turned out badly.

LOREN: “I don’t think Chuck had a clue, I didn’t. He was pierced on his dick, the head even and his balls. It all looked good on the video and it was great in the oral-shots. I had no idea the jewels could present a problem.”

TANNER: Be more specific.

LOREN: “Okay, it’s a little embarrassing. The script called for switching, which we don’t do anymore. Chuck was enjoying me vaginally and then anally. I was really into it all and got off several times … it was great.”

TANNER: What was the result?

LOREN: “Two days after the shoot, I turned up with an anal infection. The metal rings caused irritation and planted germs in my anal passage. It took a month to heal with medication. Ladies, don’t let your partner switch with or without piercing.”

TANNER: So switching is out altogether?

LOREN: “Altogether – anal is the last part of the experience and, God, I love it!”

TANNER: How do we sum up then?

LOREN: “I’ll repeat … gentleman, use both heads and be respective of your partner. Taste her and touch her gently, arouse her slowly and don’t push it in until she’s ready.”

TANNER: I think Loren said it all. Gentlemen, use your head – the one on top. Think before you probe and poke. Go gentle and easy … make it last; make it be good for her.