"BDSM"
(Domination/Switching) Part One
By
Brandon Tanner
Loren and I are now relocated in Southern California (San Diego)
and the two-thousand-eighty plus mile move was a NIGHTMARE!
Nonetheless, we made it (whips, chains, cats and all).
BDSM/D&S and similar games are very popular
and in some cases are played to an unbelievable level. Throw in
various torture-type attributes and you have a sexual activity
which needs careful consideration up front.
Let’s welcome Loren now and get her point
of view. Loren, where are you with the whole concept of BDSM and
D&S?
LOREN: “With certain reservations, I’m all
for it. However, your reference to careful consideration
couldn’t be more truthful and right to the point. Let’s look at
Bondage first.”
TANNER: I’m all for it –
LOREN: “Actually, Sweetheart, your
bondage-days have long passed.”
TANNER: Terrific – thanks for blowing my
image.
LOREN: “I’m just kidding. Seriously … think
about it ladies, I mean really give the idea some tough thought.
What you have in mind about bondage may be a hell-of-a-lot shy
of the desires and ideas of the gent you may be getting involved
with.”
TANNER: You’re talking about a first-time
encounter?
LOREN: “Exactly, I mean, you have a hot ad
on Sexy Ads, or anywhere else and you’ve placed that ad in an
Alternative Lifestyle category. You may have never had a bondage
experience in your life, but you’ve seen pictures or videos and
created your own fantasy. Damn – that seems like a great, sexual
experience! Is it? Will it be? You hope so.”
TANNER: That’s how it starts. The
first-timer is all excited and, I think what you’re getting at
is that she’s confident all will go her way, or sort of.
LOREN: “Right, women have a tendency to
trust. Be alert, ladies – your trust could make you a victim.”
TANNER: You’re saying the female might find herself in a
seriously binding situation.
LOREN: “Well put and I think, right on the
money. The lady is a novice, but the man isn’t, he may want a
bondage-game on a higher level. Once the guy has you tied up,
gagged, whatever – what can you do? What if it isn’t fun
anymore? What does the lady do?”
TANNER: I thought there were code-words – a
key-word that would bring a stop to whatever was going on.
LOREN: “There is, nothing general, but a
code or key-words understood before the Bondage-session begins.
However, some men, who are into bondage & BDSM enjoy setting
themselves up with novice women whom they can take advantage of.
They will have their way with these ladies and take pleasure in
the woman’s pain. Those men are the scum to be avoided.”
TANNER: Great points, Loren, but how is the
bad situation best detected and, as you say, avoided?
LOREN: “The best way is to be alert to the
man before any encounter. Insist on several E-mails and phone
calls before you meet the guy. Demand pictures and study the
shots carefully. If he sends you pictures of his equipment think
twice before setting up any meeting. Also, demand a meeting in a
public place.
Evaluate the person face-to-face, if you have any uncomfortable
feelings about the man – end it there and then. A man intent on
serious bondage, you may not want to be involved with, will be
evasive when you discuss the session. He’ll avoid eye-contact
and try to be smooth and clever with you. Look for these signs
and remember this; you want the experience and the guy can charm
your panties right off before you know it.
TANNER: You’re saying most men, interested
in bondage, are to be considered bad guys.
LOREN: “Not at all. Generally speaking, the
men seeking a BDSM encounter are experienced. If they are
gentlemen and know the lady is new at the game of bondage, out
of respect those gentlemen will approach the encounter with a
gentle attitude and the lady must make it clear that she is a
novice. That opens the way to a public meeting and an in-person
evaluation. Anything less is asking for trouble.”
TANNER: What about D&S?
LOREN: “That’s the subject of our next
article.”
TANNER: I can’t wait – can I dominate you
tonight as research?
LOREN: “I’m always the DOM, Baby …get on
your knees.”
TANNER: Yes … Yes!
Take care,
Brandon Tanner |
