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 “Beware
Of Those
who cheat”
(Men & women as well)
by
Brandon Tanner
Loren and I conducted extensive
research on sexually-intensive personal ads on the Internet.
Actually, Loren did most of the work. We felt it more
appropriate to have the female-to-female contact regarding the
issue of offering open sexual involvement through an ad on the
Web.
The idea hatched when one of Loren’s friends who entertains
gentlemen, in her home, on a discreet basis. I’ll let Loren tell
it.
LOREN: “Ashley is a consummate sex pot – she never gets enough.”
TANNER: You got that right. Damn, she’s hot!
LOREN: “May I continue?”
TANNER: By all means.
LOREN: “Ashley has ads on at least a dozen adult personal sites;
I think she has a real active one on Sexy Ads. Anyway, she had
entertained a guy who was married and, of course, was cheating
on his wife. The next day Ashley gets a phone call from a woman
who’s completely ballistic. The lady wants to know if she
(Ashley) had fucked her husband.”
TANNER: Trouble in River City.
LOREN: “Big trouble. Ashley denied everything and tried to tell
the screaming wife she had no idea what the woman was talking
about. The lady pressed on, she had Ashley’s phone number,
obviously, the date and time of the encounter – and Ashley’s
home address with directions to the front door!”
TANNER: The wife found the dude’s E-mail.
LOREN: “Exactly – she threatened Ashley with bodily harm and
promised to fix her for good, whatever that was supposed to
mean.”
TANNER: What came of it?
LOREN: “Thank God … nothing. The wife must’ve taken it out on
her husband in some way. Ashley never heard from the guy or the
woman again.”
TANNER: That situation could’ve escalated into something very
ugly. Is Ashley okay with it now?
LOREN: “She was pretty shaken about the incident. I suggested she
change the ad and create another user name – she did just that.”
TANNER: So the research idea started with Ashley’s near miss.”
LOREN: “Yes, I started responding to women who were running
personals with a focus on having a sexual encounter. I told the
ladies, up front, I was doing research for your column in SAG.
Most of them were thrilled at the idea, but a few accused me of
being a lez and told me to buzz off.”
TANNER: We expected some of that kind of reaction. I got a bit
of the same from the men I wrote to, but for now, let’s stay
with your perspective. Over all, I’d have to say the responses
were positive.
LOREN: “Most were … some of the women seemed to miss the dangers
of what they were exposing themselves to. Several ladies were
shocked to learn that married men leave themselves open by not
hiding their E-mail. Many wives are computer savvy and have the
skill to get into their husband’s private E-mail. Married men
beware – your spouse can detect cheating at the same time you’re
planning to do so.”
TANNER: One of the gents I wrote to admitted that he hadn’t had
any sex with his wife, whatsoever, in five years and he was
actively seeking encounters outside the marriage. The key, in
this case, was … he had his wife’s blessing to do so. Can you
believe that?
LOREN: “Yes, I can. It works both ways. I communicated with
quite a few older women who were sexually active while their
husbands had lost all interest.”
TANNER: Did they have the husband’s okay to get laid elsewhere?
LOREN: “No – that’s the rub! These older men who can’t get it up
anymore won’t let the wife enjoy herself. She goes secret and
places a sexually explicit ad on an adult site and puts herself
at risk.”
TANNER: You mean hubby can track E-mail and open a whole new
dangerous can of worms.
LOREN: “Right on the money – the husband will be even more
aggressive in doing so because he can’t stand the reality – he’s
lost it and is unable to deal with the truth!”
TANNER: I talked with a number of single men who respond to
females looking for great sex. Sometimes they know the lady is
married and they’re willing to take the risk. I shiver at the
thought. An irate husband, who might find out, can be deadly. It
doesn’t matter if the husband isn’t satisfying his wife – he
will go after the other guy out of ego alone!
LOREN: “Weed out the fake ads (there are hundreds) and consider
the vast numbers of men and women seeking a great sexual
encounter. Be aware, be careful … pick and choose before you set
up an encounter. Talk on the phone (non-sexually) to get a feel
for the other person. DO NOT send a potential sex partner any
written directions to your home. Your phone number can be
tracked as well so make sure it’s safe to give it out. I hate to
say it, but most men are sloppy with how they handle their
E-mail. That’s a direct reference to my friend Ashley’s
experience.”
TANNER: You get no argument from me on that level. After writing
to more than one hundred men (of all ages) looking for a sexual
encounter I was amazed at the risks most of them are willing to
take. Several guys simply love the idea of getting it on with a
married woman while her husband’s at work. That’s asking for
deep trouble. Most of those dudes are also married and would go
crazy if they found out their wives were entertaining other men
the same way!
LOREN: “Here we are in 2009 and we still live with a double
standard.”
TANNER: That we do. Thank you Loren, what’s your bottom line?
LOREN: “If you’re female, single or married, seeking sexual
encounters DO NOT put your address or directions to your place
in writing. If you’re married, make sure your E-mail can’t be
accessed by your spouse.”
TANNER: Add to that, if you’re male, married or single – follow
the same procedure.
LOREN: “Are we done here?”
Tanner: One last comment: no judgment here, just a statement.
Loren and I have been married for nearly eight-years. We swing,
produce adult videos/DVDs and Loren performs, on-camera, with
other gentlemen while I shoot and direct the action and often
get involved. There is no jealousy, secrets, hidden E-mail or
any risk. We love and enjoy what we do I would hope all of you
could adopt a similar attitude with your sexuality.
LOREN: “Very nicely said my dear.”
Tanner: Thank you my love – until next time – take care!
Loren & Brandon Tanner
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