Unasked Questions - Do you know everything about your lover?

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We all have things in our past that we'd rather not discuss, but if we're in a loving relationship, our partner, husband or lover deserve to know about us, both good and bad. We also have the right to know the same about our partner. When Jill found out that her sweetheart of many months had previously been married she was really upset that he'd deceived her. Warren said it wasn't important to him, he had no contact with the ex and frankly, Jill had never asked. She sat down and made a list of questions that she felt it was important to know about Warren.

Warren didn't want to hide anything, but wasn't sure what was the good time to blurt out his past. The questions helped.

Here's what Jill wanted to know and you might use these or come up with your own set of questions for things that are important for you to know.

1. Have you ever been arrested or have you been convicted of a crime?
2. Do you have any lawsuits pending against you?
3. Does anyone have a financial claim on you that might affect me?
4. Is it wrong to take things from your employer, like pens, paper, etc?
5. How do you feel about leisure time? What's the best way to relax?
6. Do you enjoy your job? Do you envision leaving it anytime soon?
7. Which of us should clean the toilets and why?
8. What sort of pets wouldn't you consider at all?
9.   Do you have any habits you wish you could change?
10. How do you feel about your family? Do you enjoy their company?
11. In the past, how have you resolved differences?
12. How well do you handle conflict or confrontation?
13. Do you need your own way most all the time?
14. Do you have any family history of any life threatening disease
       or condition?
15. Do you have or have you had a sexually transmitted disease?
       (genital herpes might not be life threatening, but it's fair to tell)
16. Are you capable of having children?
17. Do you want children?
18. Do you enjoy the company of children?
19. Do you have other children anywhere that I don't know about?
20. Do you intend to remain in this area or do you have plans to move?
21. If you die accidentally where would do you want to be buried?
22. Do you have a will? If yes, where can it be located when needed?
23. Are there any foods you refuse to eat?
24. Is there anything you are violently allergic to?
25. Do you have any sexual fetishes you're a bit shy discussing?
26. Is there anything special that really turns you on?
27. Tell me three areas of your body that you love me to touch.
28. How do you feel about oral sex?
29. How often do you feel you need and want sexual intercourse?
30. Do you consider me to be your soulmate?

Now your personal questions might be very different than Jill's, but if you haven't asked them, you can't get angry about what you don't know.

Start with a few questions and call it verbal foreplay. You get answers and you and your partner ends up with great sex.

Enjoy!!