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 Gentlemen,
Start your Engines
By
WiseWoman
Most women
online have one scenario in common when meeting strangers for
sex dates. When asking women about their online rendezvous, I
hear all too often, “They never deliver what they they say
they’re going to do, that enticed me to meet them in the first
place.” “Disappointment” is the word of the day, the week, the
month, the year. Perhaps that’s because the lines “I want to eat
you for hours,” or “I want to fuck you all night long,” just
don’t ring true?
This is how it frequently goes. The guy does a search for
“female” online in his location of choice and IM’s her. He makes
mental notes about her enthusiasm at responding to him, tells
her he’s “horny” when she asks how he is <rolling eyes>, gauges
her response, and evaluates his chances of “getting lucky.” Then
he proceeds with his spiel which he considers to be his finest
online seduction. All this in a matter of seconds and within
only the first few posts of introducing himself!!! <Gasp>
He gives little to NO consideration to the fact that she might
not be compatible, share interests other than sex, have Herpes
or anything else infectious. He certainly doesn’t care if she is
married or in a relationship. He’s rarely concerned about age,
race, or body type, not to mention other risks that he rarely
factors in. In fact, all he REALLY cares about is that she has a
willing and available pussy. If he determines she’s game, he
then expounds in explicit detail, his particular sexual
adventure of a lifetime. <LOL> The pathetic thing is, he becomes
so adept at this that far too many women fall for his fantasy.
There are so many lonely, emotionally starved women out there,
that they equate a GREAT sexual interlude with a total stranger
with being fed, if not emotionally, at least physically. But
does that fill the hole in their heart? No, me thinks it
attempts to fill the other hole which unfortunately, leaves an
even greater gaping chasm in the heart.
Problem is, when he actually gets her where he wants her, she
finds that his adventure so stimulatingly described in text,
comes no where near to the actual experience.
She comes away with feelings that are most likely ALL on the
negative side of the spectrum. She feels used, inadequate,
slutty, unlovable, dirty, and empty. Not only is she
disappointed in herself and the experience, but she also
realizes she has been deceived and defrauded. He had lied about
his exceptional abilities and she felt like a complete fool for
ever have believed him.
On the other hand, the guy seems thrilled with his date,
exhibits no apparent residual negative feelings, and has
validated the fact that he is the “stud of the universe” once
more. With this renewed self-satisfaction, he moves on to repeat
this method of approach to recreate yet another gratifying but
empty sexcapade. He has NO idea that he has personified the
stereotype that men are pigs, think with their dicks, have no
feelings, and are for the most part, disappointing lovers ta
boot!
But is he REALLY happy? Is he REALLY satisfied? If he’s not
happy or satisfied, could it be that empty, soulless sex is not
all it’s cracked up to be? Could he be repressing a smattering
of guilt that he might be aiding to the carnage of the human
spirit? And isn’t he passing up all opportunities of meeting
someone who could be important to him through this destructive
behavior?
Many men are promising things that they can’t possibly manifest
and are perpetuating insidious disappointment. Not only are they
are seriously contributing to the demise of gaining random acts
of sex with willing and available women, but they are
continually acting out this predatory behavior with little or no
awareness that they are contributing to the ongoing malaise of
good women around the globe.
Without judgment here though, and for that man who sincerely
doesn’t want to swim in the predatory gene pool but still wishes
to get random acts of sex under his belt, let’s be different,
and figure out how he can be more successful at getting what he
needs and wants, without all the aforementioned detrimental
behaviors.
First of all, it is sad but true that many women equate sex with
love. By NOT taking advantage of that fact, is where the
“gentleman” enters in. A gentleman knows the SECRET. He knows
that he can get what he needs and wants by bringing out the
“sublime femininity” in a woman.
Secondly, he knows that the innate nature of most women is to
please, adore, love, and cherish her man. Gentlemen know that
their counterparts respond to kindness, caring, affection,
sincerity, and chocolates! <giggles>
Now, I realize that a random sex date is not fodder for
producing the advent of loyalty, nor is it the intent of even
creating the hope of more than just sex. But if a man treats a
woman with the respect she needs, does it not then stand to
reason that he will be more likely to get what he seeks, AND
without all the negative consequences illustrated in the
scenario?
What if, just what if he IM’s her with respect, caring,
kindness, and sincerity? Why not empower the gentleman within,
get what you need but do it in a positive manner where honoring
the human psyche is part of the objective? And maybe the
experience will be more fulfilling and might ultimately offer
more than just biological sex.
Did you ever wonder how and why some ugly guys get dates with
incredibly beautiful women? Gee, what a concept!
© Tami Fox 2005
All rights reserved. <Personal note to those who have graciously
taken the time to respond to my ad and previous articles>..THANK
YOU SO MUCH.
It is a great
pleasure to hear from all of you. <smile>
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