Sluts
or SLW
by
WiseWoman
Why
is it that sexually liberated women are looked
upon as sluts, and heavily conquested
men are referred to as studs?? It takes a
lot of personal growth work for most women to
get liberated, considering their upbringing and
odds against becoming the wild woman that most
men these days want.
When
a gentleman asks me what it is about sex that I
like most, my reply is this: I love to share my
energy with someone who reciprocates it. I love
the dance of giving and receiving, touching,
kissing, holding, attending, pleasing, and being
pleasured (not just the orgasm, believe it or
not, we can all do that for ourselves) but the
bottom line…during the sexual act, we can
usually get the intense nourishment that our
physical bodies require to be happy and healthy.
This means that for everyone to be
happier and healthier, one needs an active sex
life!!
One
would think that most women would love to
partake in this sharing of energy as often as
possible, just like most men do. But if a
woman’s conditioning has been negative towards
sex from day one, how then, is she supposed to
deal with her built-in natural desires which may
be fighting against her moral upbringing?
Let’s
look at what we (women) are up against. Women
are raised as little girls to “act like a lady
even if it hurts,” and
“sit like a lady” and “keep your
knees together, it’s unladylike if you
don’t.” As infants, mothers won’t even
change their baby girl in public but she will a
boy! From the get-go, women (not men) set up
this whole deal trying to teach their little
girls to become proper ladies, and although I
agree with much of this formative training,
there is no transitional training from mothers
teaching their girls how to suitably take care
of their husbands/lovers needs when the time
comes to be an adult, sexual partner. I am not
saying that being raised this way is bad or
wrong, I am simply saying that those of us who
were raised this way, have a lot to overcome, in
order that we evolve into healthy sexual beings
at the appropriate time.
From
the age of 3 or so, we were warned against men
touching us in certain ways, scorned if caught
playing “doctor” with our boy playmates (our
natural curiosity severely squelched), and
punished if caught masturbating. We were made to
feel “dirty” if we touched ourselves
“there.” All exploration, we soon learned,
had to be a clandestine operation or we ended up
regretting it and being brainwashed that we were
“bad.”
By the age of puberty, our mothers had
usually done a stellar job of scaring us and
keeping secrets from us about our sexuality. We
had no resources from the ONE woman we needed
most to teach us how to be the proper sex
goddesses that our future mates would want! Fear
of pregnancy, fear of being called a slut, fear
of not being pretty enough, fear of never having
a prom date, fear of being laughed at, and fear
of not knowing what to do when the time was
right, plagued most of the girls in my peer
group.
So,
how does one heal from such an upbringing??
It’s no wonder that women these days, have all
this negative conditioning to undo. Throw in a
girl who has experienced rape or molestation and
it is no easy road to becoming the sex goddess
that liberates us from our previous
conditioning. How does one become the sexual
animal that all the men so desire? What has to
happen in society for women to be raised in a
fashion that does not make them think sex is
dirty? Where does all that sexual desire go, the
natural desire that is built –in to us as
human beings? Is it squelched and pounded out of
our cellular structure if our mothers did their
jobs right? We can’t just switch from proper
little girls to unabashed sexual queens as adult
women!!!
Why
then, is it so taboo for those women, who have
found a way to heal from the wounding of their
societal pressures, to step out like the lads,
and conquer all the men they desire, without
being called a SLUT???!!!??? And believe me,
it’s not men; it’s actually WOMEN calling
other females sluts if they sleep with a lot of
men. Is it jealousy? Are they actually wishing
that they could peel away the haunting ghost of
mother’s admonitions of “good girl” and
step into the “dark side” of carnal
knowledge??? I think that MUST be it!
Carnal
knowledge is apparently rare in women. A woman
who seriously enjoys lots of sex seems to be
hard to find. When asked “Do you swallow?”
or “Do you like anal?” or “Are you
multi-orgasmic?” jaws drop when the answer is
“Yes!” The men usually then say, “Where
have you been all my life???” <giggle>.
My
proposal is that it is also the mothers’ duty
to teach her daughter, as she becomes a young
woman, how to be sexual, how to take care of her
mate sexually, what it’s like to be intimate
and sensual, and most importantly, give her
daughter the permission and encouragement, to
now be the lovely sexual being that is innately
within herself. If it comes from our mothers, we would no longer have the
haunting "mommilies" plaguing our
subconscious, and would be able to blossom into
healthy, delicious sensual goddesses that will
keep the men happy for a long time.
As
for those who find themselves calling sexually
active women “sluts,” I think you need to
rejoice that there are those who have found a
way to conquer the stifling moralities of
societies dictations and heal their wounded
womanhood, and become the sexually liberated
women that most of the men today need, to keep
interested, sexually nourished, and excited
enough to stick around for the golden years (I
said years not showers…..LOL). I think
equality needs to be brought into the bedroom as
well as in the work place…..Here here!!
Let’s hear it for the HOT, Liberated, Sensual,
albeit SLUTS who know how to please LOTS of men
and DO so!!!
In
the next article, I will be discussing ways men
can help their women become the wild hot sexy
thangs that they so desire. If any of you have
any tried and true ideas to share, let me know
and I will be happy to anonymously (or not) add
your suggestions!!
<Personal note to those
who have graciously taken the time to respond to
my ad and previous article…..THANK YOU SO
MUCH. It is a great pleasure to hear from all of
you. <smile>
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