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Five Things that Turn a Woman Off!
by
WiseWoman
In
this day and age, there are many things that
need to change in society for people to evolve
sexually, because now more than in any other
time, with the availability of “instant sex”
via the internet, men who are inconsiderate
lovers simply can’t get away with what they
have gotten away with in the past. The
competition is fierce, and most women have such
a huge choice of “hot and horny willing to
please” men at their fingertips (literally),
that they do not have to settle for less than
what they sincerely want from a sexual
experience. Strange as it seems, orgasm itself
is NOT why women want sex although it is a
lovely and expected byproduct. What the woman
wants, is the loving, connecting, sharing,
stroking, caressing, intimacy and time a
sensitive lover who knows how to nurture a woman
offers her. Bad lovers either need to change and
get with the program, or they will be going
blind for the rest of their lives. Since all of
you readers are interested in gaining the most
positive and quality vs. quantity sexual
experiences available for you today (giggle), it
is HIGH time we get some things out in the open
about what turns MOST women off. Many of these
things mentioned are also true in reverse but
that’s another article. (Gentlemen, I would
love to get your opinions for the next article
on what turns men off if you would be kind
enough to email them to me).
Women
shy away from expressing their “turn-offs”
directly to their partner because we usually
like to avoid putting ourselves in a position of
being called the “b” word. It is very hard
to tell a man (and his ego) that he is doing
something wrong or is in any way, lessening our
desire for his attentions by his clumsy actions.
However, there are significant things that keep
cropping up that can no longer be kept secret.
Either you take heed or you simply won’t be
asked back for more SEX!!! Women like quality,
men like quantity. Men who like quality women in
quantity, PAY ATTENTION!!!
When
I talk to my girlfriends about their sexcapades,
and compare notes on techniques, turn-ons, and
turn-offs, these 5 things that I am bringing to
the table here are, by far, the MOST discussed.
In reverse order of importance:
Number
5 is: Sex Talk. If you are with a
woman who does not like to talk dirty during
sex, doing it anyway because it turns YOU on is
a huge turn off for her. Especially if you like
to use expletives that are derogatory and
demeaning like calling her your bitch, slut,
whore, or cunt (most women positively HATE this
word at any time). Saying things like (my
personal turn-off) “Who’s your daddy,” or
“Whose pussy is this?” is a borderline turn
off unless the woman happens to like being
someone’s property (NOT!!). If she is telling
you to “fuck” her and using foul language
with you, make sure she is doing it because it
turns HER on and not just YOU. Don’t TELL her
to talk dirty to you because if she is
embarrassed about doing it, it will stop any
passion that you might be trying to build on. If
it is not her natural instinct to do so, talking
to her like that or egging her to talk that way
to you, can be a serious mistake on your part.
Be sensitive to a woman’s NATURAL tendencies
during lovemaking. The more experienced women
can usually express their desires and tell you
what feels good, or moan in a way that you will
know you are doing the right thing, but
inexperienced women, have a very difficult time
because they feel uncomfortable telling you what
to do, thinking it will hurt your precious egos.
Perhaps during the ACT is NOT the best time for
asking the inexperienced woman for instruction.
Before or after the intimate moments, might work
better.
Number
4 is: Fishing for compliments.
Most women (most people for that matter)
don’t like to have to give compliments that
they haven’t genuinely thought up all on their
own. Men who constantly ask, “Do you like my
cock?” or “Do you think I’m sexy?” or
“Is it big enough for you?” or “Was I
good?” or “Tell me how much you want me,”
just make most women want to puke!!! Why would
we (women) want to bruise your ego and tell you
anything but what you want to hear? So we answer
it in agreement (whether it’s true or not)
just to assuage your EGO!!! <rolling
eyes>. Fishing for compliments, especially
during the height of passion, is a BIG TURN OFF.
Get over yourself and enjoy the moment. Tell HER
how sexy she is, how hot she is, and how
wonderful she feels to you and I bet you get WAY
more in action than the shallow answers you are
demanding will produce.
Number
3 is: Personal hygiene is a BIG
factor when you are skin to skin with a woman.
Most women want to make sure they are
presentable for a lover, and usually try to
shower, as close to the time sex is eminent.
This gives her the confidence she needs to be
completely uninhibited as far as receiving oral
attention. If body odor is present or bad
breath, we all know it is very disconcerting for
intimacy to be successful. But it seems that
many either don’t notice that they smell, or
they just don’t care. On these hot summer
days, getting physical and romancing your gal,
might come to a screeching halt if you don’t
pay attention to your personal hygiene. If the
man is smart, he will offer to shower together
and make the ritual of washing and soaping her
part of great foreplay, and it’s totally fun
especially if you drop the soap!!!
Number
2 is: Men wanting oral but not giving it.
There is nothing MORE intimate to most women
than giving and receiving oral sex. Women who
have allowed themselves to enjoy the pleasures
that oral stimulation can bring them, almost
always want it included in the foreplay, from
then on. There is nothing that makes a woman
feel MORE womanly, than when her lover is
spreading open her lips, and seeing, tasting and
sucking the MOST private part of her there is.
This is an enormous turn on, and can turn a
mediocre lover into a Romeo in my eyes, when a
man takes this seriously. However, one of the
biggest turn-offs are those men who expect to
have oral sex performed on them but DON’T do
it on the woman. Personally I think they need to
be thoroughly and unabashedly stricken from the
gene pool (thank god there aren’t very many of
them). It absolutely appalls me when a
first-time lover tells me that he loves giving
oral but that “I have to get to know you
better before I will go down on you” while he
is wholeheartedly expecting me to go down on him
right then and there!!! Now a days, before I
even agree to meet for a first-time sex date, I
make sure it is understood that my credo is NO
ORAL, NO DATE. We women have so many men who
LOVE to pleasure us orally; we don’t need some
dead-beat who is just interested in getting what
he needs. And one thing that all the women
seriously hate is when a man puts his hand on
her head when she IS giving him head. PLEASE, do
not do this. We do not like you to push us down
any deeper than we can go on our own volition.
If you force something here, you might be very
sorry. LOL
And
now for number ONE: Man gets “off” and
gets off. The absolutely WORST thing any
man can do to turn a woman off and will
absolutely guarantee (for the most part) that he
will never be asked back again is when a man
cums before she does and he does nothing to
finish her off!!! She is not going to complain,
nor is she going to TELL him to finish her off
and unless she senses that he has a definite
immediate desire (and sense of obligation) to
take care of her, she will probably just roll
over and let him off the hook and get him out of
her presence as fast as she can. I can guarantee
you that she is seething inside, disgusted and
very disappointed that she even gave him the
time of day. If this was his first time with
her, there WON’T be a next time. If this is a
husband or boyfriend who does it on a continual
basis, he will soon turn her off to having sex
with him. This is a guarantee!!! Men with
premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction (a
huge percentage of men over 40 are stricken with
this reality), need to learn other techniques
such as tongue action, toys, and finger
manipulation or a combination of these and be
prepared to go to the ends of the earth to
please the woman one way or another. If a man
leaves without making it his first priority to
satisfy the woman, he is a lousy lover.
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